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Read on Amazon 3 Sentence SummaryIn 12 Rules For Life, Jordan Peterson weaves together personal anecdotes, intellectual history, and religious imagery into a truly unique book that explores how to live a life full of meaning and purpose. This book broadly discusses individual responsibility, discipline, freedom and adventure in ways that range from the humorous and surprising, to the deeply philosophical and serious. Dr. Peterson’s unconventional style is full of encouragement and optimism that serves his message well; that a better world is possible if we aim to swallow our pride, take responsibility for our individual faults, listen to each other, and act with compassion and humility. 5 Key Takeaways
Please Note The following book summary is a collection of my notes and highlights taken straight from the book. Most of them are direct quotes. Some are paraphrases. Very few are my own words. These notes are informal. I try to organize them by chapter. But I pick and choose ideas to include at my discretion. Enjoy! 12 Rules
Forward by Dr. Norman Doidge, MD
Rule #1. Stand Up Straight With Your Shoulders BackPrice’s Law
The Nature of Nature
Dominance Hierarchies
Routines Regulate
Positive Feedback Loops
Rising Up
What it Means to Stand Up Straight
Benefits of Standing Up Straight
Rule #2: Treat Yourself Like Someone You Are Responsible For HelpingPets
Chaos and Order
Only Humans Are Capable of Evil
A Spark of the Divine
Give Yourself Some Respect
Rule #3: Make Friends With People Who Want The Best For YouBad Friends
Not Everyone Who Is Failing Is A Victim
Selfless Help Or Narcissistic Vanity
Objection Christ himself befriended tax collectors and prostitutes. How dare I cast aspersions on the motives of those who are trying to help? But Christ was the archetypal perfect man. And you’re you. How do you know that your attempts to pull someone up won’t instead bring them—or you—further down?
Personal Responsibility
Vice is Easy
Choose People Who Want Things to Be Better
Rule #4: Compare Yourself To Who You Were Yesterday, Not To Who Someone Else Is TodayThe Internal Critic
Many Good Games to Play
Debilitating ComparisonsWhen the internal critic puts you down using such comparisons, here’s how it operates:
Find Meaning in the Journey
Faith to Aim High
Rule #5: Do Not Let Your Children Do Anything That Makes You Dislike ThemWhen You Don’t Say “No”
Individual Problems and Social Corruption
Peaceful Societies
Discipline Your Children
Helpful Rules
Rule for Beginners
The Meaning of “No”
Discipline for Children
Parenting in Pairs
Rule #6: Set Your House In Perfect Order Before You Criticize The WorldGood from Evil
Things Fall ApartHurricane Katrina When the hurricane hit New Orleans, and the town sank under the waves, was that a natural disaster? The Dutch prepare their dikes for the worst storm in ten thousand years. Had New Orleans followed that example, no tragedy would have occurred. It’s not that no one knew. The Flood Control Act of 1965 mandated improvements in the levee system that held back Lake Pontchartrain. The system was to be completed in 1978. Forty years later, only 60% of the work had been done. Willful blindness and corruption took the city down. A hurricane is an act of God. But failure to prepare, when the necessity for preparation is known—that’s sin. That’s failure to hit the mark. And the wages of sin is death (Romans 6:23). Stop Doing What You Know to Be Wrong—Without Question
Rule #7: Pursue What Is Meaningful (Not What is Expedient)
The Delay of Gratification
When Things Don’t Go Well
How to catch a monkey First, you must find a large, narrow-necked jar, just barely wide enough in diameter at the top for a monkey to put its hand inside. Then you must fill the jar part way with rocks, so it is too heavy for a monkey to carry. Then you must scatter some treats, attractive to monkeys, near the jar, to attract one, and put some more inside the jar. A monkey will come along, reach into the narrow opening, and grab while the grabbing’s good. But now he won’t be able to extract his fist, now full of treats, from the too-narrow opening of the jar. Not without unclenching his hand. Not without relinquishing what he already has. And that’s just what he won’t do. The monkey-catcher can just walk over to the jar and pick up the monkey. The animal will not sacrifice the part to preserve the whole. The Greatest Sacrifice
Pursue What is Meaningful
Death, Toil and EvilKnowledge of Good and Evil Once you become consciously aware that you, yourself, are vulnerable, you understand the nature of human vulnerability, in general. You understand what it’s like to be fearful, and angry, and resentful, and bitter. You understand what pain means. And once you truly understand such feelings in yourself, and how they’re produced, you understand how to produce them in others. It is in this manner that the self-conscious beings that we become voluntarily and exquisitely capable of tormenting others. We see the consequences of this new knowledge manifest themselves when we meet Cain and Abel, the sons of Adam and Eve.
Jesus in the Desert
Christianity and Individual Rights
Socialism
Meaning as the Higher Good
Rule #8: Tell The Truth—Or, At Least, Don’t Lie
Beware of Simple Ideologies
Lies Weaken Your Character
Rules At Work Someone power-hungry makes a new rule at your workplace. It’s unnecessary. It’s counterproductive. It’s an irritant. It removes some of the pleasure and meaning from your work. But you tell yourself it’s all right. It’s not worth complaining about. Then it happens again. You’ve already trained yourself to allow such things, by failing to react the first time. You’re a little less courageous. Your opponent, unopposed, is a little bit stronger. The institution is a little bit more corrupt. The process of bureaucratic stagnation and oppression is underway, and you’ve contributed, by pretending it was OK.
What Saves
Deceit Kills
The Truth, Instead
Rule #9: Assume That The Person You Are Listening To Might Know Something You Don’t
Figure It Out for Yourself
A Listening Person
Misunderstood
Lecturing
You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know
Rule #10: Be Precise In Your Speech
There’s No Such Thing as a Dragon There’s No Such Thing as a Dragon is a story for children by Jack Kent. It’s about a small boy, Billy Bixbee, who spies a dragon sitting on his bed one morning. It’s about the size of a house cat, and friendly. He tells his mother about it, but she tells him that there’s no such thing as a dragon. So, it starts to grow. It eats all of Billy’s pancakes. Soon it fills the whole house. Mom tries to vacuum, but she has to go in and out of the house through the windows because of the dragon everywhere. It takes her forever. Then, the dragon runs off with the house. Billy’s dad comes home—and there’s just an empty space, where he used to live. The mailman tells him where the house went. He chases after it, climbs up the dragon’s head and neck (now sprawling out into the street) and rejoins his wife and son. Mom still insists that the dragon does not exist, but Billy, who’s pretty much had it by now, insists, “There’s a dragon, Mom.” Instantly, it starts to shrink. Soon, it’s cat-sized again. Everyone agrees that dragons of that size (1) exist and (2) are much preferable to their gigantic counterparts. Mom, eyes reluctantly opened by this point, asks somewhat plaintively why it had to get so big. Billy quietly suggests: “maybe it wanted to be noticed.”
Marriage
Vague is Easy
Define the Problem
Rule #11: Do Not Bother Children When They Are Skateboarding
Self-Appointed Judges of the Human Race
Boys
What Girls Want
Fatherhood
Culture
Postmodernism and the Long Arm of Marx
The Khmer Rouge Marxist ideas were very attractive to intellectual utopians. One of the primary architects of the horrors of the Khmer Rouge, Khieu Samphan, received a doctorate at the Sorbonne before he became the nominal head of Cambodia in the mid-1970s. In his doctoral thesis, written in 1959, he argued that the work done by non-farmers in Cambodia’s cities was unproductive: bankers, bureaucrats and businessmen added nothing to society. Instead, they parasitized the genuine value produced through agriculture, small industry and craft. Samphan’s ideas were favorably looked upon by the French intellectuals who granted him his Ph.D. Back in Cambodia, he was provided with the opportunity to put his theories into practice. The Khmer Rouge evacuated Cambodia’s cities, drove all the inhabitants into the countryside, closed the banks, banned the use of currency, and destroyed all the markets. A quarter of the Cambodian population were worked to death in the countryside, in the killing fields. The Soviet Kulaks In the 1930s, during the Great Depression, the Stalinist Soviets sent two million kulaks, the richest peasants, to Siberia (those with a small number of cows, a couple of hired hands, or a few acres more than was typical). From the communist viewpoint, these kulaks had gathered their wealth by plundering those around them and deserved their fate. Wealth signified oppression, and private property was theft. It was time for some equity. More than thirty thousand kulaks were shot on the spot. Many more met their fate at the hands of their most jealous, resentful and unproductive neighbors, who used the high ideals of communist collectivization to mask their murderous intent… …The “parasitical” kulaks were, in general, the most skillful and hardworking famers. A small minority of people are responsible for most of the production in any field, and farming proved no different. Agricultural output crashed. What little remained was taken by force out of the countryside and into the cities. Rural people who went out into the fields after the harvest to glean single grains of wheat for their hungry families risked execution. Six million people died of starvation in Ukraine, the breadbasket of the Soviet Union, in the 1930s. Power
The Strong Man Ethic
Rule #12: Pet A Cat When You Encounter One On The Street
Imagine a Being who is omniscient, omnipresent, and omnipotent. What does such a Being lack? The answer? Limitation. If you are already everything, everywhere, always, there is nowhere to go and nothing to be. Everything that could be already is, and everything that could happen already has. And it is for this reason, so the story goes, that God created man. No limitation, no story. No story, no Being.
Enduring Trials
Coda
What shall i do with my life?
What shall I do with my wife?
What Shall I do with my daughter?
What Shall I do with my parents?
What shall I do with my son?
What Shall I do with the stranger?
What shall I do with a fallen soul?
What shall I do with the World?
How shall I educate my people?
What shall I do with a torn nation?
What shall I do with God my Father?
What Shall I do with a lying man?
How shall I deal with the enlightened one?
What shall I do when I despise what I have?
What shall I do when greed consumes me?
What shall I do when I ruin my rivers?
What shall I do when my enemy succeeds?
What shall I do when I’m tired and Impatient?
What shall I do with the fact of aging?
What shall I do with my infant’s death?
What shall I do in the next dire moment?
What shall i say to a faithless brother?
What shall I do to strengthen my spirit?
What shall I do to ennoble my body?
What shall I do with the most difficult of questions?
What shall I do with the poor man’s plight?
What shall I do when the Great crowd beckons?
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